Apology > "I'm sorry"

A few months ago some people gave me an appointment and never came or apologized for not coming. A few days later they come and want to have their appointment on that day. I complain to them about not coming the other day and never apologizing for it, and one of them replies saying "I'm sorry". I don't know if the problem is mine, if I haven't used the right words or with them for misunderstanding me. Because this isn't what I meant, at all. If someone gives an appointment and never shows up then they shouldn't just come beg for my forgiveness, it's not like I said this for the fun of someone begging and pleading for me to forgive them. What I meant by apology is getting in contact with me as soon as possible and giving me a good excuse for not showing up, maybe adding the magic words "I'm sorry" then asking for another appointment.

"I am sorry", these three words could be simply meaningless. Especially that many people say them without feeling sincerely sorry. Apology is different, and differs from one situation to another. In that simple example I didn't need anything more than that very easy, yet respectable apology, in other situations it might be more complicated. But never ever is it a simple "I'm sorry".

Apologies usually involve breaking promises, which is in itself a huge problem. So an apology should be an explanation for why the promise was broken, or at least a way to prove that the person regrets breaking the promise. Because if it's otherwise, then one shouldn't even apologize.Apologies vary with the mistakes, but the one thing all apologies should have in common is that the person should show that they really really mean it. And that doesn't happen by saying I'm sorry.

If you apologize everyday, then please know that something is wrong with you. Either you're apologizing to a wrong person, and by that, I mean in a love relationship, friendship or work relationship with the wrong person. Simply, you two might not be compatible. Or you might take the world "apology" for granted, hence you just say it without even meaning it. It would be just a word to get on with your life and forget about things. That would make you a hypocrite. And of course you might be living an awful life, not in connection with your morals, doing all the wrong things and then regretting it or getting in a situation where you have to apologize to get things over with. In all cases, you have to fix things, you can't live your life apologizing everyday. You'd be a very unhappy, hypocrite type of person with very low self confidence. The point is that, only apologize if you mean it, and live a life where that happens only rarely.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

The Legend of Osiris, Moral of the Legend

Image
First let me say that most of the extraction of lessons in this post isn't done by me, but by the person who has opened my eyes to the beautiful myth. Yet I also have to say that when I did my own research, and read it from different sources, I found even more lessons to learn. And that's the beauty of it, with every time you read it you learn something new. So to the moral of the Myth of Osiris.... It's clear that the fight between Horus and Seth is a fight between good and evil, between what's rightful and what's wrong, between what's true and what's fake. Horus had an intelligent mind that lead him to fight for the truth. Seth had an intellect mind that made him able to give excuses for his helpers, to brainwash them, or to give them fake reason to fight his fake war. Horus, with the wisdom of his mother and a father who holds the truth had the sharp vision of a hawk. But what is vision to our ancestors? What is the eye of Horus? What does it stand for...
Read more

Egypt Uprising 2013: One Last Push

Image
June 29, 2013 Tamarod Tamarod (Rebel), the public movement that has been collecting signatures for the past two months to call for early presidential elections with the aim of finding a legal way to topple President Mohamed Morsi, announced the final signature count in a press conference this morning. The number announced was 22,134,465 signatures. Mahmoud Badr, the movement's founder, made a call for more than 22 million people to join the protests tomorrow and stay in the streets until they bring Morsi down. He also announced that the president's legitimacy has fallen after they've collected a number of signatures th at is more than 85% of the number of voters in the presidential elections. Badr answered those who question the number by demanding early elections, saying that this was the only way to prove the accuracy of either of their numbers. The announcement was met with celebratory reactions among many Egyptians...   Support Since April 6 movement...
Read more

Who Voted for Shafiq?

After standing in a line with the Heliopolis ladies who were mostly voting for Shafiq, I came back home wondering why would anyone do such thing? The most popular answer I got from the ladies was in fear of Ikhwan. Knowing that the percentage of Christians here is more than in other places, and knowing that us, the ladies of Heliopolis, can never live the life of Ikhwan with what Azza El Garf says about FGM and sexual harassment laws, with forcing us to wear or not wear something (even the veiled of us), with having men control our lives, with having someone control our religious practices it makes sense to be against Ikhwan. And being one of those ladies, I too am against Ikhwan and anyone who mixes religion with politics. Now this takes out Morsy (although I know a few who voted for him), and maybe Abo El Fotooh for some. So then I asked why not Sabahy? And they were all against him because of being a Nasserist because they're families were put under great harm because of nationa...
Read more